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A New Type of Athlete
I had a chance to spend a few minutes with Pat Riley, former coach of the LA Lakers, NY Knicks and Miami Heat at the Kentucky Derby. We talked about coaching athletes today versus coaching 20 years ago. Riley feels that the fatherless athlete today is far more difficult to coach than any other athlete over the years. They have an entitlement mindset, which is ego-based, due to the lack of a dominant male figure in their lives. He said the most difficult part of his career has been dealing with this type of athlete. Riley feels strongly that it has ruined the game and sports itself.
The Official Press Release: $50,000 “CHANGE YOUR LIFE” CONTEST ANNOUNCED
Synopsis of video:
If you’ve been away from someone you care about or love for at least two hours, the first 90-seconds that you see them has more impact on the relationship than spending hours with them later.
As soon as your arrive home, make that last phone call in the driveway. Close the door on your tough day at the office or your long road trip. Close your mind to the past so you can fully engage with complete awareness to your loved one.
Walk in the door and be fully engaged in the moment. Regardless of your day prepare to focus your energy toward the people that matter most. Hear their voice tone or inflection. And if your loved one is sad then use a technique inside the 90-second rule called mirroring. Act sad so you can show empathy. Now you can raise them to a level of positivity. If the person you meet is happy, be just as happy to keep their level of positivity the same.
CONTEST AND PRESS RELEASE
Winning Video Testimonial for Coach Jim Fannin’s New, Powerful Film Will Receive $25,000 Cash Grand Prize
Burr Ridge, IL, May 6, 2009 – He’s been speaking about it for years, but now he’s partnered with a legendary celebrity photographer to make “The 90 Second Rule™” movie that teaches his mantra. Jim Fannin, the highly acclaimed “Zone Coach” and “Change Your Life” guru, master teacher, speaker, author and philanthropist has a brand new movie he feels will have a positive impact on people’s lives and he’s offering $50,000 in cash and prizes including a $25,000 cash Grand Prize going to the film’s most compelling video testimonial. Testimonials will be accepted from May 6 through July 6, 2009 and should have a running time of no longer than 3 minutes.
“The 90-Second Rule™” is a short, powerful film about how to empower your family, friends, co-workers, business associates and personal relationships – under any circumstances including recession-related issues like not being able to pay bills or the loss of a job. Pivotal, emotional scenes depict both correct and incorrect adherence to “The 90-Second Rule™.”
The film can be viewed at www.90secondrule.com. After seeing the film, folks from across the U.S. (18 and over) can submit a testimonial about how “The 90 Second Rule™” impacted their life to www.90secondrule.com. The top ten finalists will be posted in July at www.90secondrule.com and the public will have the chance to log-on and vote for the Grand Prize winning testimonial.
“Over the past 20 years the institution of family has eroded. Coming home to an empty welcome has played a part in the unraveling of the family fabric. It’s time to correct this and embrace change,” says Fannin.
The “Change Your Life” Contest featuring Jim Fannin’s “The 90 Second Rule™” film is being strongly supported by a client of Coach Fannin, Fortegra Financial Corporation, one of the top providers and administrators of credit insurance and payment protection services in the United States. Coach Fannin’s tools and “The 90 Second Rule™”, in particular have had a major impact on Fortegra’s staff, management and their families, and the company has helped contribute to the grand prize money.
“The teachings and guidance of Jim Fannin has had a marvelous impact on our employees and their families and we feel privileged to be a part of Jim’s effort to help people protect and in many cases, save their relationships and their family unit,” commented Richard Kahlbaugh, President & CEO of Fortegra Financial Corporation.
Fannin adds, “If you‘ve been away from someone you care about or love for at least two hours, the first 90-seconds that you see them has more impact on the relationship than spending hours with them later on. Make that last phone call in the driveway before you step in the door and get past your tough day at the office or your long trip on the road. Close your mind to the past so you can fully engage with complete awareness to the people you will soon meet again.”
“The 90-Second Rule™” is dedicated to Jim Fannin’s late mother, Lahoma Agnes Crouch, to whom Jim promised at her deathbed to take his message to the masses.
“For decades I’ve privately spoke of my messages of hope and possibility to the rich and famous as well as everyday people. “The 90-Second Rule™” has been one of many tools that I created to offer simplicity and balance in one’s life and now it’s been filmed for everyone’s enjoyment and benefit,” commented Fannin.
Fannin utilized the talents and skill of his client, legendary photographer Bob Davis, to shoot “The 90-Second Rule™”. Davis is known for, among other things, shooting Oprah Winfrey events plus several high profile celebrity weddings (Eva Longoria-Parker, Eddie Murphy, etc.)
“When Bob offered to shoot “The 90-Second Rule™” it occurred to me that Bob’s spent decades documenting the beginning of so many marriages. Now, he’s filming a movie that is going to save countless marriages and other relationships,” noted Fannin.
After watching the testimonials, Fannin and his team will select the top ten finalists on Friday, July 10th and post the movies on www.90secondrule.com. From July 13th – August 5 people will be able to log-on and vote for the winner. Fannin will announce the Grand Prize winner on Wednesday August 12th.
The Grand Prize Winner will receive a personally delivered check from Fannin in the amount of $25,000. The runner-up will receive three months of free personal coaching from the “Change Your Life Coach.” The remainder of the top ten finishers will receive five free coaching sessions with a certified Jim Fannin “Change Your Life” Coach.
Watch “The 90-Second Rule™” movie and enter your video testimonial at www.90secondrule.com.
For further information or to arrange an interview with “The 90-Second Rule™” creator Jim Fannin please call (212) 843-8073 or email amazur [at] rubensteinpr.com or visit www.jimfannin.com.
About Fortegra Financial Corporation
Founded in 1982, Jacksonville, FL-based Fortegra Financial Corporation (formerly named Life of the South Corporation) has grown to be one of the top providers and administrators of credit insurance and payment protection services in the United States. Fortegra Financial serves clients in the automotive, banking, credit unions, consumer finance, retail, credit card and vacation ownership industries.
LOTSolutions, Inc., a wholly-owned subsidiary, provides a wide variety of best-in-class marketing services, including strategy development and campaign design, management, execution and fulfillment. LOTSolutions is also a premier provider of product administration and technology services. Fortegra Financial is a proud member of the Summit Partners portfolio of companies (http://www.summitpartners.com/).
About Jim Fannin
More than a life coach, Jim Fannin is a “change your life” coach. His thought management system swiftly empowers people to “be the best they can be” without inconvenience. Period! Throughout his 35+ year career as an author, educator, raconteur, life strategist and sports and business consultant he has personally coached over 150 of the world’s most successful athletes and many of its most powerful business leaders. Jim’s client roster reads like a “Who’s Who” list including: bestselling authors, Olympic Gold Medalists, Champion PGA golfers, Major League Baseball All-Stars, NBA All-Stars, NFL All-Pros and seven professional tennis players ranked in the world’s top 10. He’s even coached coaches such as David Leadbetter, voted world’s #1 golf instructor by Golf Magazine; Lou Piniella, Manager of the Chicago Cubs; Peter Nowak, the US Olympic soccer coach; Doc Rivers, Head Coach of the World Champion Boston Celtics. In addition to professional athletes, Jim coaches Bob Davis, the world-renowned “visual storyteller” who’s mastered the craft of still and video photography; and has helped key executives in 36 industries including Fortune 500 companies such as IBM, Honda, Toyota, Mercedes-Benz, Merrill Lynch, GE Healthcare, AIG and Transamerica.
Is He Lying or Telling the Truth?
Having studied the power and dynamics of thought for the majority of my life, I have learned to read them through three sets of cues or tells. With a shift in your focus you will be able to do the same. Now you’ll have the power to see and feel the truth…especially with your man.
In order to lie, a person has to have a conscious thought. This conscious thought immediately sets off three simultaneous reactions. They are:
1. Physical
2. Emotional
3. Intuitive
Learning the physical reactions to the thoughts of your significant other is the easiest when you know his different “tells.” Being fully aware of your man’s reactions will only be accomplished when you set aside your emotions and your preconceived notions. Although many people can mask physical reactions, with an acute awareness some signals will get through.
Here is a list of physical reactions of a liar after being asked a direct question:
1. Looks up to his right and or touches the right side of his head or neck. He’s creating the answer. High probability of NOT telling the truth.
2. Looks up to his left and or touches the left side of his head or neck. He’s searching his memory. High probability of telling the truth.
3. Crosses his arm before he answers. This indicates defensive posture. He is NOT pleased with the question. High probability of stall tactics forthcoming.
4. Answers the question with initial high-pitched voice. Most children give this one away. He’s caught!
5. Answers with a cracked voice. He’s caught!
6. Touches or rubs his nose just before or while answering. Not good! High probability of NOT telling the truth.
7. Looks down from your gaze. He is in defensive submission.
8. Reverses the question. Classic defense that is used to buy time. High probability that you will not get a straight answer. Omission of detail usually comes next.
9. Changes the subject. Common defensive maneuver. Most let him off the hook. You decide.
10. Grabs or clears his throat before or during answer. He feels very threatened. Not a good sign!
Bonus Tips:
A. In front of other women he touches or fidgets with his wedding ring. This indicator say’s there is HIGH probability he’s having thoughts that he would NOT want you to know.
B. Intuition, which arrives as a gut feeling, is real time information that you’re conscious mind does not possess. It usually whispers to you and only once. LISTEN TO YOUR INTUITION. Its accuracy is uncanny. More importantly act on it.
If you want to turn your significant other into an honest man, start with yourself. Be honest with him. Tell him how you feel- not just what you think. When he asks you if you’re ready, instead of saying, “In a minute,” tell him the truth that it’s going to be more like 20 minutes. When people can lie on the little things, it’s a short hop away from the big things.
So the next time when the phone rings and you’re in the shower, don’t holler to him, “Tell her I’ve left. I’m on my way, I’ll be there shortly.” When your Mother calls and he answers the phone don’t mouth the words, “Tell her I’m not here.” You’ve let him know that lying is ok when it’s convenient. Make it clear your importance of honesty. Brandish this word and deeds on a regular basis. Lying is lying. Honesty is honesty.
All of my clients have been trained in my S.C.O.R.E.® Performance System. It is a thought management system for honest communication with yourself and others. This includes being a great friend, spouse, son or daughter, sibling and yes… a best friend to themselves. Honesty must blanket all life arenas.
For more information go to http://www.jimfanin.com.
Clients Bob and Dawn
Clients Bob and Dawn Davis are an amazing couple. Bob is a visual storyteller of world-renown and wife/partner Dawn manages his business affairs, website, and other creative endeavors such as an awesome wedding album for Eva Longoria (Desperate Housewives star) and Tony Parkers (star player for San Antonio Spurs).
After receiving The 90-Second RuleTM, the Davis’ shared it with their two children and have been using it consistently for the last several months. They believe The 90-Second RuleTM has had a major impact on the bonding of their family. After hearing the results, I felt divine intervention in asking Bob to help me create The 90-Second RuleTM movie. We enlisted an amazing editor from the San Francisco Bay area- Anton Lorimer, from Lorimer Works, Inc.- to help us in this ambitious project.
I’m proud to announce that the 5-minute in length 90-Second RuleTM movie has been born, and it is in its final edits. My personal sneak preview blew me away with the videography and the compilation. I can’t wait to present this so that you can see it.
Stay tuned!
Happy Valentine’s Day!
The last five minutes of your day is devoted exclusively to each other. This routine is about giving, sharing, loving and nurturing. If a disagreement cannot be resolved before The Five Minute Rule®, agree to resolve your differences the next day if there is an impasse. However, The Five Minute Rule® still applies. No matter what transpired before the Five Minute Rule®, DO NOT allow the negative to go to sleep with you. Period!
During the Five Minute Rule®*:
· Always talk in low-pitched tones.
· Talk slow and calm. Whispers rock!
· Focus on one another in the present tense.
· Be honest.
· Do NOT bring up other life arenas such as finances, kids, job or personal health
· Avoid ALL talk about the past. It’s not the time.
· Care about what the other feels, not just thinks. See through their eyes and feel through their feelings.
· Understand. Compassion spawns passion.
· No judgment.
· No acting as a victim.
· Talk only about the future in a positive, solution oriented and loving way.
· Only shared vision thoughts are acceptable.
· Compliment.
· Deal from your relationship strengths.
· Be silent in harmony and solidarity.
· Hold hands, laugh, cuddle, kiss or caress.
· Use pet reminders such as, 1+1=3, One breath forever, ‘til eternity
· Close the night with statements of “I love you,” “I believe in you,” “I appreciate you” or other loving, caring “I” statements.
How much time do you actually spend on those closest to you?
I don’t like to waste time with anything I do or coach anyone else to do. Every tool or exercise that I have developed in my coaching is designed for you to use within the time you have between all the activities in your life. 30 seconds here, 3 minutes there. These thought management tools can be used anytime during the day to help with any number of problems. For example, do you spend too much time focusing on your projects at work and not on your loved ones waiting for you at home? Do you not notice the mood your family is in because you
have had a long, tough day at work? Is your job taking up your family’s time?
If you are distant with your family and life at home is unbalanced, then you life and mindset at work cannot be balanced either. Try this tool when you go home from work next to improve your communication. Its called: The 90 Second Rule.
If you have been away from people that you care about, such as family and close friends for at least two hours, the first 90 seconds that you see them has more impact than spending hours with them later.
The next time you go home after an absence of two or more hours, prepare to give your family and /or friends your undivided attention. 90 seconds. That’s all it takes to say with your attentive words and actions, “I love you…I need you…I missed you…I value you…I need you in my life.” Immediate, undivided interaction is the best way to convey sincerity and caring to one another. And once you master this at home, it will work just as well with a client.
You may have to make that last cell phone call in the drive way or you may need to clear your brain for a few minutes before you walk through the door. Be prepared as you enter a new life arena.
The 90 second rule. It works at the office, home or any place where you care about the occupants.
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