Jim Fannin Blog

I don’t like to waste time with anything I do or coach anyone else to do. Every tool or exercise that I have developed in my coaching is designed for you to use within the time you have between all the activities in your life. 30 seconds here, 3 minutes there. These thought management tools can be used anytime during the day to help with any number of problems. For example, do you spend too much time focusing on your projects at work and not on your loved ones waiting for you at home? Do you not notice the mood your family is in because you
have had a long, tough day at work? Is your job taking up your family’s time?

If you are distant with your family and life at home is unbalanced, then you life and mindset at work cannot be balanced either. Try this tool when you go home from work next to improve your communication. Its called: The 90 Second Rule.

If you have been away from people that you care about, such as family and close friends for at least two hours, the first 90 seconds that you see them has more impact than spending hours with them later.

The next time you go home after an absence of two or more hours, prepare to give your family and /or friends your undivided attention. 90 seconds. That’s all it takes to say with your attentive words and actions, “I love you…I need you…I missed you…I value you…I need you in my life.” Immediate, undivided interaction is the best way to convey sincerity and caring to one another. And once you master this at home, it will work just as well with a client.

You may have to make that last cell phone call in the drive way or you may need to clear your brain for a few minutes before you walk through the door. Be prepared as you enter a new life arena.

The 90 second rule. It works at the office, home or any place where you care about the occupants.